Becoming//The Thirties - Saroni


Continuing the stories told by women about their experiences in their 30’s. This is Saroni’s story.

“People may ask you to be loyal. But the question is “Who deserves your loyalty the most?” I would say there's only one person who does, the one staring back at you from the mirror! Be loyal and true to yourself.

People may say it’s selfish, but you can’t pour from an empty cup! So fill yourself with love, happiness and peace. For, only then can you empower others to achieve those very things.

In the words of spiritual leader, Dalai Lama, “happiness” means mainly a sense of deep satisfaction. The object of life or our goal, then, is satisfaction…..If you don't love yourself, you cannot love others. You will not be able to love others. If you have no compassion for yourself then you are not able of developing compassion for others.

Jealousy, envy, malice, the list of negative emotions is endless. It all accrues from the same source, feeling unhappy and deprived within your own self. It stops you from loving anyone you think, has it all!

It doesn't matter if you’re a little girl in a patriarchal society, a wife or a mother, if you’re in your 30s or your teens. Speak up if you feel you've been wronged, abandoned or misled. It’s never too late! That’s the only way to heal, by not hiding your wounds and scars.

A cancer survivor, a woman of colour, living in a prejudiced society, my message to all you gorgeous and talented people in the world, is to believe in yourself, love yourself, love the skin and body you’re in, flaunt your scars, have the courage to speak your mind, don’t conform to injustice, live the life you always wanted to, because that’s your path to healing and attaining inner peace and happiness that you’ve throughout been seeking outside of you.

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